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Namibia Honors Businesswoman of the Year

Thursday, October 18th, 2007

rhiana.pngThe Namibian Businesswoman of the Year 2007 prize was awarded to Rhiana Potgieter, owner of the Shadonai Beauty School. This article on AllAfrica.com stated the awards were given during a banquet on Friday, October 12. Also taking home awards were Helene Vosloo, winning the category of Community and Government, and Margaret Bennett, winner of the Private and Corporate Sector category.

In the announcement of the nominees, Desere Lundon-Muller stated the Businesswoman of the Year program was started 12 years ago to honor the “women whose achievements, commitment and vision have made them leaders in their chosen fields of endeavour.” Telecom Namibia and Castle Brewing Namibia are sponsors for the event, and the Namibia Economist newspaper serves as the organizer.

In an interview with the Namibia Economist, Potgieter said she started the school with just five students and no accreditation. Today, she has 20 full-time and 40 part-time students, and is accredited through the Namibian Training Authority as well as international organizations. “I definitely have an enormous impact on their lives and this is the biggest responsibility of all,” she says.

Women in Namibia are beginning to gain more equal status in some areas, but those living in rural regions still face many hardships and discrimination. In A Physical Educator’s Perspective of Namibia, Africa, Bonnie J. Reimann explores the major issues still affecting women’s rights. The greatest of these issues continues to be HIV/AIDS, with the number of young women living with the disease estimated to be more than twice that of young men. In addition, many widows find themselves suddenly having their property taken away by male family members after the death of a husband. This fact sheet on women’s rights in Namibia may shed some light into this situation faced by agricultural, rural women:

Namibia is a signatory to the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women (CEDAW).

The Constitution of Namibia guarantees equal rights for women and provides for affirmative action to redress past imbalances. However, the Constitution also states that all laws in force at independence remain in force until repealed or amended by Parliament, and that customary and common laws also remain valid, as long as they do not conflict with the Constitution or statutory laws. Thus many discriminatory laws that affect rural women remain intact, including those that limit women’s control over property and access to land over property and access to land and credit.

Reimann stated, “This lowered economic status can encourage high-risk behavior such as engaging in unsafe sex for money, housing or food for women and their children. It becomes evident that the cycle of poverty, HIV/Aids transmission, and gender disparity will be difficult to break.” During her visit to Namibia, she also toured the education programs offered to girls to women in the country. While there are some quality programs in place, the women of Namibia need access to much more. Strong business leaders like Potgieter and the other winners offer the hope that perhaps the gender disparity explored by Reimann, although difficult, can be overcome.

To read how other international women are overcoming oppression, check out Afghanistan City Helping Women Own Businesses.

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What is a Mammogram?

Tuesday, October 16th, 2007

Just saying the word “mammogram” is enough to make women uncomfortable. For women who have never had one, it is not knowing what to expect. Will it hurt? What does it feel like? How long does it take? How long do you have to wait for results? What look on the radiologist’s face will tell me I need to worry? Like any medical test, the anxiety over waiting and not knowing consumes your thoughts until that call from the doctor.

Mammograms are a necessity, though. Breast cancer is a very real and deadly danger. The mammography pictures can catch a tumor in a much earlier stage than self-exams, helping to improve the chances of recovery. Even people who have no history of breast cancer in the family can be a victim, and at an early age. Karen Lynch was one of those people, and she writes about her experiences on Discussing Breast Cancer.

So what is a mammogram, and what should you expect at your visit? Karen’s first-hand experience can tell you a lot of what you might be wondering. I also found this video from the Winship Cancer Institute describing in detail the doctor’s visit, the test, what you should do, and when you should do it. So watch the video, read about Karen, and then pick up the phone. Most insurance companies will pay for one baseline mammogram between the ages of 35 and 40, and then yearly after age 40. If you do not have medical insurance, organizations and women’s clinics can help you find assistance for the procedure. Please don’t let fear or finances prevent you from having the screening. Your life depends on it.

If you need help finding financial assistance for a mammogram, please contact me using the contact link on the right side of this page. I will be glad to do what I can to find resources in your area.

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Dentist Says TMJ Helped by Breast Rub!

Monday, October 15th, 2007

Don’t buy it, ladies! This dentist should lose his license, seven kids or no. In the court case in Woodland, CA, Dr. Mark Anderson has been charged with fondling the breasts of 27 female patients. He claims that the breast massage helps TMJ pain. He didn’t bother to comment on the fact that his massage technique includes up-the-shirt under-the-bra contact.

tmj2.jpgI have suffered from constant TMJ pain for four years on both sides of my face. I will admit that at times, it is the worst pain I could ever imagine. But not once in the last four years has a medical professional, including a specialist who I traveled over 150 miles to see, recommended I or anyone else rub my breasts. Massage can most definitely help. The facial muscles, neck and shoulder muscles can all contribute to TMJ pain and headaches. But the last time I checked, a woman’s breasts are made up of fatty tissue. I find it impossible on myself to compress them enough to effectively massage any underlying muscle tissue, and I wear barely a B-cup.

After reading the article, I searched “TMJ massage” on the Internet. Not one of the articles in the first 20 recommended breast massage for women. If the purpose of the massage is to relax muscles, and you’ve got a creepy dentist groping around in your shirt, chances are you left the office worse off than when you went in.

There are many treatments available for TMJ, and ways you can cope with it at home. You can read about my own experiences with this disorder in Living with TMD: When a Smile Hurts. You can also find many online resources for TMJ massage techniques. But don’t be fooled by a dentist. Breast massage is NEVER a recommended treatment for a dentist to perform. Even if you happen to develop a tumor or cancer of the mouth, let your ob/gyn perform any breast exams. If dentists creep you out anyway, check out The Dentalwork Headache by Rena Sherwood.

Lyndsey D’Arcangelo, Contributor to “Best Lesbian Love Stories: Summer Flings”

Thursday, October 11th, 2007

bllstories.jpgThe book Best Lesbian Love Stories: Summer Flingsis on shelves now. The anthology is a collection of fictional short stories set against a backdrop of summertime, that most romantic of seasons. The description of the theme brings to mind heated romance when the nights seem to last forever and the days pass all too quickly.

Everyone loves to fall in love, and there’s no better time than summer. From languid, lazy days to hot, humid nights, this year’s edition of lesbian love stories explores the passionate connection between women and women, and the sultry sun that sizzles their skin.

Writer Lyndsey D’Arcangelo contributed the story “The Sight of Her” to this newest edition of the Best Lesbian Love Stories, published each year with a different theme by Alyson Books. D’Arcangelo wanted to write a believable love story that anyone could relate to. “The unexpected encounters that often happen in our lives are always memorable for one reason or another, especially if that encounter results in a coupling of some kind. Charlie Myers is a bright-eyed English teacher looking to make some extra money for the summer as a tutor. In answering a random ad in the paper, she finds much more than a meaningless summer job. She finds love in an unlikely companion as well as a newfound appreciation for classic feminist authors.”

According to D’Arcangelo, the stories in Best Lesbian Love Stories: Summer Flingsare about love, but not erotic. “It’s more about romance, love and loss. I don’t write erotica, nor would I feel comfortable doing so.” She is also the writer for Lez Keep It Real, “Where opinions count. Even if you’re gay.” I asked her if she ever receives hate mail or comments because of her openness about her sexuality.

“I don’t because the GLBT material that I write is for GLBT audiences so I know I’m not writing anything that would offend people. I take my audience into consideration. When another short story of mine was published in Chicken Soup for the Soul Celebrating Brothers and Sisters: Funnies and Favorites About Growing Up and Being Grown Up (Chicken Soup for the Soul) I wrote the story without a GLBT premise because of the audience and because the story had nothing to do with GLBT issues. I once wrote a personal column about gay marriage for the Buffalo News. And I received one hate letter that was sent anonoumously. It made me smile actually because I thought, out of an entire city of people who read the column only one person expressed any hatred AND they didn’t even have the courage to sign their name to the letter. It bothered me for a second and then I moved on. Most of the responses I receive, from homosexual and heterosexuals alike, are words of encouragement. I am blessed that people can recognize good writing without the sexuality attached. I’m a writer first, a lesbian second.”

And therein lies the appeal of the Summer Flings anthology: whether you are gay, straight, or bisexual, great writing can transport you to a sunny summer day when love and romance, and the one person who gazes longingly from under sunbleached bangs, are all that matter.

EXCERPT FROM “THE SIGHT OF HER”

As she turned a corner once more, Charlie saw a young woman, not much older than she was, say late twenties or so, sitting in a rocking chair facing the professionally landscaped backyard. Her auburn hair was tied up in a bun, and her canary-colored sundress fluttered in what little breeze there was coming in off the grassy fields that lay before her. Her bare feet rested on a wicker stool, crossed, revealing toenails that were painted a bleeding red. She was fair-skinned and delicate. The mere sight of her caught Charlie’s breath.
“Hello?” she called out, approaching slowly as not to startle her.
The woman turned her head, but not fully. She was wearing a pair of sixties-style sunglass, the lenses bug-eyed and larger than they needed to be.
“Yes?”
“Are you Miss. Carter?”
“Miss Carter…sometimes. Jessie depending on who’s calling.”
“I’m Charlie…Charlie Myers. I’m here about the ad in the paper, the English teacher for hire.”
“Then it’s Jessie. I was beginning to wonder if anyone took my advertisement seriously,” she scoffed and waved her hand at the empty seat beside her. “Please, sit.”
Charlie sat down, wondering why the seemingly affluent woman proceeded to talk at her instead of to her.

ABOUT LYNDSEY D’ARCANGELO

Lyndsey D’Arcangelo studied at Randolph-Macon College in Ashland, VA, where she earned a BA in English and Creative Writing. After a few years of writing in a variety of mediums, Lyndsey now offers professional writing services through her freelance venture D’arc•Light Creative. In addition to writing professionally, she finds time to craft and publish monthly columns for GLBT publications, novels, short stories and poetry. She has recently published two short stories in nationally known publications for Alyson Books and the Chicken Soup for the Soul series.

You can view her short stories, novel excerpts, personal blog, poems and published work at www.lyndseydarcangelo.com.

To order either of the books Lyndsey has recently contributed to, click on the titles:

Best Lesbian Love Stories: Summer Flings

Chicken Soup for the Soul Celebrating Brothers and Sisters: Funnies and Favorites About Growing Up and Being Grown Up (Chicken Soup for the Soul)

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Christopher Columbus’ Treatment of Women

Monday, October 8th, 2007

columbusposterwaltp4_small.jpgToday is Columbus Day here in the US. I can’t help but wonder, though, why we continue to celebrate it. Columbus did not discover the North American continent. In fact, he never even set foot on it. The closest he came to it was the islands of the Bahamas. At most, he managed to land on islands that were already “discovered” and inhabited, and proceeded with his own agenda of genocide in the name of his king and queen. Are we Americans so entrenched in our own delusion of superiority that we will continue to celebrate a mass murderer, rapist, and child abuser who never even set foot on our own soil? We may as well celebrate Jim Jones for leading 900 people to commit suicide. At least the adults in his cult had a choice.

On Columbus’ first two voyages, there were no women on board the ships. It does not take much imagination to guess what happened when these hardened men landed. Women were enslaved and used for sex. Columbus rewarded his officers for good deeds by giving them local women to rape. On his third trip, Columbus did recruit one woman for every ten men. But you can bet the other nine men were not celibate.

On each of his voyages, Christopher Columbus rounded up hundreds of men, women and children from the islands and shipped them back to Spain for the slave markets. It is estimated that by the end of his travels, he had enslaved 1,400 indigenous people and shipped them to Spain. Many of those died on the way.

There are at least 19 places in the Western Hemisphere named for Christopher Columbus. Perhaps instead of celebrating Columbus Day, you could visit Columbus, Ohio, and hold a seance with the weeping Lady in Gray.

Image from Transform Columbus Day Alliance.

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How Do I Know If I Am Being Abused?

Tuesday, October 2nd, 2007

Domestic Violence Awareness Month continues throughout the month of October. Awareness is not just learning about the problem. It also means learning to recognize if you are being abused. Many victims will tell you that at first, they did not realize they were being wrongly treated. Something in our brains just doesn’t want to admit that a person who is supposed to love us could do us harm. I have heard from women that even through swollen and bloody bruises, they did not realize they were a victim. Instead, they thought it wholly justified by something they had done or said, or not done or said. “The problem was me, not them.” Sometimes it takes facing death’s door, or on the other side, for a woman to recognize abuse for what it is.

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Domestic violence and abuse can take many forms in emotional, sexual, and physical manifestations. Sometimes what starts out as emotional abuse may soon lead to a beating and then rape as the perpetrator’s need for control intensifies. By that time, the victim is so emotionally distraught and disorganized that the physical effects seem just a natural part of the relationship. If she tries harder, cooks better, speaks more softly, looks prettier, he wouldn’t have felt the need to beat her or rape her. As outrageous as this sounds to some of us, it is a well-documented fact of the thought processes of victims. By learning the signs of abuse and recognizing them in your own relationship, hopefully you will not become another statistic.

HelpGuide.org provides an overview of Warning Signs and Symptoms of Abusive Relationships. The cycle of abuse discussed in the article covers early warning signs, escalating behavior, and how to get help. Some basic signs, other than actual physical or sexual violence, include belittling, isolating, intimidating, and blaming.

  • Maybe he calls you stupid and tells you nothing you do is right.
  • Maybe he calls you “fat” in the middle of a dinner party.
  • Maybe he refuses to let you have lunch with your best friend on her birthday.
  • Maybe he tells you your parents hate him and you have to choose between him or them.
  • Maybe he threatens your life if you tell anyone where that bruise came from.

The “maybe’s” are as varied as the number of excuses that he can come up with, but they all lead to one end: domestic violence.

If you suspect you are in an abusive relationship, get help immediately. These behavior do not go away. He will not stop because he said he loves you. He will not keep a promise to not hurt you again. There are two ways his abuse will stop: you will get help and leave, or he will kill you. Please choose the first way!

Wheel image source: www.helpguide.org

For further reading on Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Bob Betzen of Radical Avenue talks about The Lasting Wounds of Domestic Violence.

Also visit these other 451 Press Blogs for more information:

Purple_Ribbon.jpgwww.lifeasachristianwoman.com
www.about-sanjoseca.com
www.earthlygarden.com
www.watchingbionicwoman.com
www.watchingbsg.com
www.limitededitionfoods.com
www1PStart.com
www.astrologyexplored.com
www.about-honoluluhi.com
www.parentingandreligion.com
www.maritaltalk.com

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

Monday, October 1st, 2007

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, sponsored by the NCADV. Over the next few days, several writers here at 451 Press are dedicating their sites to this cause. According to the daily numbers for this blog, at least 150 women who read this article today have been a victim of abuse. It is up to the other 450 of us to stand by them and provide them with a voice.

ButterflyProduct.jpgMy next few posts will talk about specifics of domestic violence including statistics and resources. First, we are going to look at the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) and ways we can support them. The NCADV provides assistance, education, research and public policy information to victims of abuse. The first Unity Day was held in October 1981, which later grew into the Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Since that time, they have started and assisted numerous programs including “Remember My Name” the “Bring Volume to Silent Voices Campaign.” They also participate in cell phone drives and charity cars, and partner with cosmetic companies who donate profits from the sale of certain items.

To learn which products you can purchase to help the NCADV, visit the home page and click on the links for each product. One such product is the beautiful sterling silver Faith the Butterfly pendant from HealthHomeandHarmony.com, shown in the picture. Also on the home page you can learn how to send in your old cell phone as a donation and where to order the new Body Shop lip treatment.

I urge you to explore the NCADV website to learn about the resources and programs available. If you have never been the victim of domestic violence yourself, it is almost guaranteed that you know someone who has. Just take a look around your workplace or the grocery store tomorrow. 1 out of every 4 women you pass is a victim. And they never stop being victims, for the psychological and spiritual scars linger long after the physical violence has stopped. Prevention is the only cure for domestic violence victims.

For other online resources, check out www.homecomputertalk.com.

Other participating 451Press blogs:

Purple_Ribbon.jpgwww.lifeasachristianwoman.com
www.about-sanjoseca.com
www.earthlygarden.com
www.watchingbionicwoman.com
www.watchingbsg.com
www.limitededitionfoods.com
www1PStart.com
www.astrologyexplored.com
www.about-honoluluhi.com
www.parentingandreligion.com
www.maritaltalk.com

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